Tryouts are beginning soon for high school fastpitch softball in many parts of the U.S., and with them comes all the anticipation, hopes, dreams, and yes, anxiety typically associated with trying to earn a spot on a team.

Plenty has been written about things you can do to improve your chances of making the team you want, such as hustling, going out of your way to talk to the coaches, taking chances by doing things like diving for balls and so on. Heck, I’ve written a few of them myself.

Today, though, I want to tell you about a secret most players don’t know that can help free them to show the coaches (or evaluators at an open selection event) what they can really do. If you’re a parent, guardian, or friend of a player, please be sure to pass this tip along to them.

Okay, are you ready? Here it is:

The coaches doing the evaluations want you to do well. In fact, they’re really hoping you do.

That’s right. They’re not standing there waiting for you to mess up or looking for things they can criticize to make you feel bad. Instead, they want you to look good.

How can that be, you ask? Why would they care one way or the other?

It’s simple: they have a need to fill or a problem to solve, and if you come out looking great they can fill the need or solve the problem without having to worry about it anymore. In other words it’s in their best interest for you to be awesome.

I actually had this epiphany while listening to the SmartLess podcast with Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, and Will Arnett. It’s very entertaining as the three of them interview other celebrities and interesting people; it’s perfect for those long car rides to far-flung games and I highly recommend it.

They were talking about how nervous they would get as young actors auditioning for roles in movies or on TV shows. Then they started directing and producing, putting them on the other side of the audition table, and they realized their main thought there was “I hope this guy/gal is what we need for this role so I can move on to other things.”

It’s the same in fastpitch softball tryouts or evaluation events. The folks with the clipboards have X number of slots to fill.

They want to fill them with quality players as quickly as they can – players about whom everyone will say, “I see why they were selected.” So when you step onto the rubber or into the cage or on the field, they want you to be good.

They need you to be good. They are basically rooting for you to be good.

While I don’t coach teams anymore I can personally confirm from past experience that this approach is true. I never thought about it that way but yes, I hoped every girl I looked at would be awesome because it would make my job easier, especially when it came time to take the field in a game.

Now, I will say in many high school situations the term “tryouts” can be a misnomer. Often most of the team is already selected before the first day.

Still, there is usually a need somewhere, an open slot that needs to be filled for the team to be complete. The coach isn’t trying to eliminate those who can’t fill the spot; he or she is looking for the one person who can.

So when you step into the spotlight, don’t think or worry about the outcome. Focus on the process, which is going out there and showing the coach why you are the solution he/she is hoping to find today.

If you perceive the coach or evaluators as rooting FOR you instead of AGAINST you, you’ll stand a much better chance of setting any nervousness aside and performing to the best of your abilities. With the result of greatly increasing your chances of being selected.

Now go out there and show them what you can do! Good luck to all.

My good friend Jay Bolden and I have started a new podcast called “From the Coach’s Mouth” where we interview coaches from all areas and levels of fastpitch softball as well as others who may not be fastpitch people but have lots of interesting ideas to contribute.

You can find it here on Spotify, as well as on Apple Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, iHeart Radio, or wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re searching, be sure to put the name in quotes, i.e., “From the Coach’s Mouth” so it goes directly to it.

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